About Me

So why choose me to help?

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Hi, I'm Mary and apart from 20 years of experience in childcare, education and family support, two degrees (psychology and Child Development) and an additional qualification in special educational needs, I am most importantly, a mother of 3. My oldest is 16 and my youngest is 5. I have run the gauntlet of parenting myself. I use my knowledge of child development and psychology, alongside my personal experiences, to support families with many parenting challenges. 

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When I was 24 years old, I decided to become an outdoor activity instructor. one of those 'cool people' that kids seem to listen to and engage with. I had no idea, I didn't have a particular approach or method that I'd I read in a book, and I certainly knew nothing about being a parent or at this time. But I was in charge of a group of kids, doing risky activities in potentially dangerous environments. So, they had to listen, respond to rules and boundaries, and they show respect and independence. And that is what they did. Why? Because I think back then I just expected it from them, there was no fear, no judgement, and I made the rules and consequences clear. Teachers who told me 'watch out for this one they are difficult,' were somewhat taken aback when the child thrived and demonstrated respect, independence and internal validation. 

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I didn't realise at the time, but now looking back I was doing the things I have since learned about in classrooms and lecture theatres. I was a calm, emotionally stable and predictable adult. I set simple and clear boundaries and ensured they understood the consequences. I offered them the chance to validate themselves before I jumped in and scratched the external validation itch that all children have. I offered them responsibility to keep themselves and each other safe. I offered them a challenge. But most of all I offered them fun, joy and held them accountable. I didn't punish or shame any of them for getting it wrong, I just reminded them of the rules and helped them to achieve success.

Sure, there were challenging children who became unsafe at times, but I didn't overreact or get emotional, I simply ensured that the consequence they were already aware of was carried out. They were reminded of the safety rules and any reaction I received back was simply ignored (I had heard worse even at that point in my life). 

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So I took this with me, into many school's, preschools and family homes I have since been privileged to work in.

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I have run a preschool, worked in forest school settings, in classrooms in primary and secondary schools and am now supporting families to regain parental presence with love, safety and consistency. It's really that simple. ​

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I really look forward to helping your family soon 

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Mary